For Dorothy, it was as simple as closing her eyes, clicking her heels
and repeating “there’s no place like home.”
And voila! She was back in Kansas.
For the rest of us, the journey home to ourselves can be like being on the spin cycle of our washing machine.
The home I’m talking about is internal, that place inside where we literally become ‘full of ourselves’. It’s not about ego or being vain. Rather, it’s a fullness that we can experience from the core of our being. It’s where self-confidence, self-esteem and self-care live. We know where to go when life throws a curve ball our way. It’s our in-house north star and once we know how to follow it we can rest in ourselves with a new-found sense of peace.
The side effects of being ‘home-less’ are many, some of which may include (but are certainly not limited to):
- being quick to give ourselves away for the sake of connection
- having difficulty reaching out to ask for help or support
- not feeling safe
- struggling with the good things in life because we’re
- always waiting for the other shoe to drop
- wearing ‘independence’ like a badge of honour
- feeling decimated when our partner doesn’t call
- being a perpetual people pleaser
- feeling separate from our life like we’re sitting on the sidelines
- thinking the only boundaries are the ones we see on a map
“Coming home to myself” is a term I dubbed after learning how to rewire my brain and reconnect with my body. The experience was surreal. It felt like I had more room to breathe inside myself and I was more connected to my body. Pieces of myself were put back together. I just felt more settled inside. And I knew I wanted to hang out in there way more often. So, I practiced. Six times a day for sixty seconds. And sometimes longer. I practiced when I got triggered. I practiced for the sake of practicing. I was now changing from the inside out.
New neural connections were forming in my brain. I now had more connection with myself and more connection with life.
Stuff still happens but now I have the tools to deal with it. Small things that use to cause internal earthquakes were now just blips on the radar.
So having reached the other side, I’ve become a guide to help others find their way.