Inherited Family Trauma
What if we inherit more than our mom’s green eyes and our dad’s curly hair?
What if the challenges we face and the ways we get stuck are linked to the heartbreaks, resentments and disappointments of our parents and grandparents?
Unbeknownst to us, there’s an emotional inheritance from previous generations that lives in our depression, anxiety, financial hardships, relationship struggles and even our perpetual people pleasing.
It’s time to connect the dots, break the cycle and find the roadmap to our resilience.
There’s a science to how we suffer.
The research in epigenetics making headlines tells us that we can carry molecular scars from the experiences of our parents and grandparents. And these scars can shape our genome three generations.
Three generations sharing one biological environment.
When your grandmother is five months pregnant with your mother, the egg that will become you already exists in your mother’s womb. This means that any losses, hardships or trauma that your grandmother experienced during the pregnancy could potentially have a ripple effect; you could live your life knowing something about those feelings without having any context where they came from.
Our father’s traumas also affect our genetic blueprint.
A 2018 study at Tufts University showed that men who suffered trauma as children can pass anxiety onto their children through their sperm. Researchers found that trauma early in life was linked to sperm changes in both mice and men.
The good news is we can break the cycle.
Linking our issue to the emotional residues we carry is the first step. This helps us widen our perspective. Until then we’re merely like looking at the sky through a straw.
Then, by combining experiential, body-centred exercises based in neuroscience, we can down regulate our stress response. This can even change the way our genes function. Practicing neuroscience techniques enables us to produce more feel-good neurochemicals such as serotonin, dopamine, GABA, oxytocin and endorphins.
We can also experience visceral shifts in the body. And have more space to breath. We can respond to situations rather than react unconsciously to them. And feel more ease inside ourselves. From this place of embodied wholeness, we are able to open up to new patterns of receiving and new ways of experiencing life. This changes everything. This is coming home to ourselves.